Infidelity and Jealousy...

I am probably not the normal male when it comes to jealousy and infidelity.  I was never, even from the first year we were married jealous when my wife talked to other men or when other men made eyes for my wife.  I always took it as a compliment to my wife and in some strange way to me if we happened to be walking through a mall and a man seemed to admire my wife as we passed by.  I know that is totally foreign to many men.

Even when we eventually began our several years long stint of "playing" with other guys, I never feared that she was going to leave me for the other guy.  I was more turned on than embarrassed if the other guy had a bigger dick than mine.  I found that not only did I not mind leaving the room to allow the other guy a few moments of "private" time with her, I was turned on just wondering how much fun they were having alone.

So the point is, I'm not the jealous type.  But what of this turn on for infidelity - anyones infidelity?  I have never had per se, a sexual romance with another woman.  There are caveats to that, of course.  I have eaten pussy, had my dick sucked, and had very intimate conversations with other women, but never to the point of intercourse or checking into a hotel.  I am totally turned on though by reading about or learning of other people's infidelity.  Just look at the blogs I read - mostly women and a few men who write about their infidelity.

So, to be clear: I'm not the jealous type and I get off on people being cheaters.  Having said all this as a preface,  I totally get it if a spouse becomes unhinged or at least upset upon learning or suspecting that the person they have made a commitment to has violated those promises.  If a friend told me his wife cheated, I would feel his pain and support him.  I may have an erection, but I totally get his mental state.

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My son is the stud I never was.  Through college, he had assembled a stable of some of the most smoking hot young ladies, almost all of whom were extremely intelligent, well grounded and headed for success.  He would go for periods of exclusivity with one but things would fizzle and he would dabble with those waiting in line for his attention.  I always thought in spite of my probably misguided pride, that he was probably fighting with fire.

After college, his relationship with probably the most smoking hot of all these girls, became difficult due to distance.  Both of them moved to different cities to pursue careers and things changed.  In one of his rebound modes, he dated a girl that had been an acquaintance in high school but never fit the model of his "type".  She was a school teacher, frumpy in appearance, and while she seemed to have an okay personality during the brief periods we interacted with her, we just couldn't make the connection of how he hooked up with her.  Perhaps he was growing up and no longer needed the best looking girl on campus.  Or perhaps there was more to her personality than we knew.  We did not think this was a serious relationship at all because he would only see her when he was in town visiting, and then, he often had dates with several other girls from his stable. That sounds so awful to refer to them that way.

He also complained that she was crazy - that she would literally call his phone 75 times in an evening accusing him of being out with "some slut."  In spite of the crazy jealous behavior, he would try to calm her down rather than simply jettison this troll, and he would go to her house and see her.  Her parents simply loved him!  We already despised her.

As seems to be the case so often these days, her birth control failed and she became pregnant. We had always warned our son to use protection and in fact, my wife constantly used the term "double-up", but apparently he felt confident enough to accept her claims of being on the pill.  His fault, as far as I'm concerned.  You can't get a crazy bitch pregnant if you don't fuck her in the first place.

I'm sure to readers here, my wife and I don't come across as the pillars of high morality, but we did take great care to instill in our kids the sense of responsibility needed to live in society.  In spite of troubles we may have had in our own marriage (we were separated at one point for over a year), we always set aside our arguments and put the kids first.  My son arranged a quick marriage and took his now pregnant wife with him to his new home in another city.

A year later with a young child, he has been miserable.  For his job, he works long days and travels often.  That can be a strain on any marriage, but when the wife is so incredibly paranoid and jealous, it only makes matters worse.  All of the old girlfriends and platonic friends know that he is off the market, yet like other young men, he has hundreds of these people as friends on Facebook.  His wife spends hours everyday imagining that he is cheating with all of them.

Her rage over publicly posted messages with such seductive language as, "How are things going?" or "Your baby is so cute" has caused phone call after phone call to his office where she demands that he remove the following list of sluts from his Facebook account.  Don't get me wrong, I get that Facebook has destroyed more than one marriage when people suddenly hook up 20 years later with old flames from high school.  But we aren't talking about that here.  Her biggest rage is aimed at a long time family friend who he never dated and who has been in a long term relationship with a guy who is a friend of my son's.  Hello!  She is the last one this crazy bitch should be jealous of.

My son has convinced his wife to seek counseling and her doctor put her on some sort of medication.  It worked briefly. But the craziness has escalated.  Her rage has resulted in thrown items, bruises and finally, during a scene where she followed him to a co-worker's house (a male co-worker);  she not only put dents in his car, but she slugged him in the face.  When he called us to give the latest details, my wife contacted his local police department and asked them to call him.  In the end, he went down and filed a police report but refused to actually press charges.

My wife asked him point blank if he has ever cheated on her.  His response, a firm and absolute, "No, never."  The crazy wife sent messages to all of their mutual friends on Facebook announcing that he was cheating on her.  How do you respond to that?  "No, don't believe my wife, the mother of my child; she is crazy."  It is sadly, a no win situation.  He has had to defend himself to colleagues of his who give him the look of disgust and shake their heads. He has had to defend himself to his in-laws who wonder why he would treat their daughter with such disrespect.

It has been all I can do to keep my wife from jumping on a plane and going to beat the living shit out of this whacked out young lady.  Worse, we fear for the grandchild that we realize we'll never really have a good relationship with.  This marriage is doomed and I'll happily pay for the divorce.  But in spite of the long list of craziness the wife has displayed, my son will have no choice but to agree to giving the mother primary custody.  His travel schedule very often includes months away from home (he is in the military), and at least for now, he can't offer any sort of predictable childcare arrangement.  I just have this ugly gut feeling that he will come home from a trip to find that the bitch has torched the house and driven herself and the child into a lake.

Infidelity may be wrong, but jealousy is one sick bitch.