I recently posed the question on one of the forums I visit - I'll just quote it below:
"Have you ever recognized a person you know from a straight G-rated forum in a lifestyle forum like this? I know our hosts Agatha and Inigo have mentioned having straight friends aware of their situation.
Like many people here, I don't use my real name when I visit forums or groups associated with the hotwife lifestyle. On one occasion, a couple I talked with but had never met in person on a g-rated forum turned up on a sex related forum using the same username and exact photos of themselves. Is it proper to identify yourself as someone who knows them from another forum, but not share your G-rated identity, or should it best be left alone?
Likewise, I have been reading a very popular g-rated (okay, PG-13 rated) blogger and she recently admitted to having been involved in threesomes and foursomes in her life, though would not expand on the details. It very well could have been one time incidents from 20 years ago but on the flipside, she and her husband could be regulars here? Who knows?
Has anyone encountered this type of thing and, if your only interest is expanding the bounds of conversations, is it ever appropriate to cross the paths of these two worlds?"
And if I did e-mail her, do I send the note using the identity she knows me as, or as James, the married Bi guy who gets off on his wife fucking other men?